Many times on this site I heard people claim that our group at the VG Press are not just some forummers, but a group of friends! A friend can be many different things to many different people. For some it is someone who always helps them out, for others it is a supporting ear when you talk about your problems and for some others it is the dude that pushes you to try new things!
It does not matter what your definition is, but in all cases it means people are happy to see you. In my case if someone I consider a friend visits my hometown, I would want to meet up and show him around. Why would I not? I mean we are friends right?! Someone you enjoy spending time with. So why would you not spent some time with him?!
Gamingeek has some reservations about that. What if your expectations and reality do not match up? So what?! Your expectations were wrong, Vader does not look like Wesker and Homer does not look like Homer! You will manage! Sometimes people are more awesome in real life sometimes they are better in text! So?!
Or we might unintentionally offend each other? Well that is a load of crap. Text communication is vastly inferior to communication when people are in close proximity of each other! Text communication misses stuff like body language and speech! Sometimes a joke can be taken seriously through text, while in real life the body posture and tone can give away that it was a joke. So no GG, unintentionally offending someone has a much greater chance of happening here than when we all meet up! And lets not forget that we often intentionally offend each other. I know I do!
And not getting each other in real life is a strange thing to say, seeing again texting is a inferior way of communicating! Chances are that we will get to know each other better! You will definitely learn things about each other you will not like, but you will learn things about each other you do like! With some people you get a closer connection with other people you do not, such is life!
But what could be the reason why GG does not want to meet up! There could be many! He could hate me, he could be affraid of me, he could be too shy? Whatever the reason, it does not matter. Because if you are friends you would like to meet up and me and GG are therefore not friends, we are just some people that post on the same forum.
And family should be as far away as possible.
Pretty much true this.Add to the fact that I am serbian and that I am an engineer and you can quadruple the asshole factor!
GG doesn't want you falling in love with him.
Or at least his asshole.
Seriously guys, I am mostly a recluse, I see people, including my own brother very rarely. My best friend I see about twice a year as he moved to a different country. My family dominates virtually all my time aside from other commitments. I don't like pressure to meet anyone, don't like heat so rarely leave the house if it's over 23C. Don't like the rain either. And I am tired virtually all the time as I haven't slept through the night without waking for a decade.
If anyone wants/needs to meet me, a public declaration shouting match is not going to truck with me. Think of me like a visiting cat in your garden, if you want the cat to come to you, you don't point at it and shout in its face "I am coming for you! I will break your legs!"
Don't assume offence if I choose not to meet, this is why my friend(s) live locally and we can just as easily agree to meet another day rather than on a specific day, depending on how we're feeling. And whilst I live in London, it's right on the edge and a long tube journery into central.
Nobody ever comes to Mexico. ;____;
Can't blame you, I wouldn't come here either, hehehe.
I did eat Mexican in London does that make you happy my dear?!
Judgement is coming!
Dvader said:
Perhaps not mud but you view GGs stance as a negative.
No, I view GG as someone that is not a friend. I explained why that is. You might not agree, but that is my stance. Just because I do not view him as a friend does not make my statement negative. There are many people in the world I do not consider to be my friend. That does not make it negative or positive. It just is.
gamingeek said:
.......okay?
But if you want to meet up with friends, you don't threaten to rape them and constantly insult them by calling them pathetic cowards!
The rape thing was clearly in jest, everyone including you were laughing about it! I called you a coward, because you basically admitted you were affraid. Just rephrasing things that you yourself said. You are just making excuses here!
gamingeek said:
Different people are different, some are more comfortable meeting strangers from the internet, some not. By your definition no one on this site can be considered my friend. I talk with my acqauintances here about 8x more than I talk with my real world "friends".
Face to face time is crucial to me and in my opinion is a much healthier way of communicating than via text. I understand that because of distance we cannot have this face to face time, so texting is better than nothing. But in my opinion texting should not replace face to face communication.
And you contradict yourself a bit here GG, you call us strangers from internet than later admit that you talk with us more than you talk with your real friends! If this is true, then you just admitted that you have zero friends. Find some friends then!
gamingeek said:
bugsonglass said:
When I would visit London all the time I remember asking if gg wanted to see Arietty or meet up sometime or whatever ... he made a passing joke about it being "a trap" (with the famous gif) ... I just left it at that. I didn't take it personally, it hasn't affected how I feel about the person.
I think perhaps you need to re-assess your definition of friend.
It didn't help that I read it late and had other plans. I have family commitments, so I like to know well in advance what I'm doing anyway with people I know in real life even. For instance this Saturday I'm child sitting all day and as much as I'd love to ditch it, I have to be there.
Calling BS on this one. Again your making excuses! I announced it 6 days in advance and we had a four full days window! No one is that busy!
gamingeek said:
And I suffer from a mild form of anxiety, so thanks Iga for wringing that out.
Your welcome, I suspect that this is one of the reason you are affraid to meet up! Sure you could hate me, but you also did not meet up with Bugsy who is harmless! I think it is not as mild as you think!
gamingeek said:
Good.
I did and was willing to partake in podcasts when I had a mic. Then my laptop was stolen by gypsies.
Wait?! Real actual gypsies? Did they put a curse on you?
gamingeek said:
I'm more likely to meet up with someone who is constantly friendly and respectful, (not occasionally hostile which is how you can be sometimes) who lives in my city, case in point a Miiverse friend who lives in London, who is a male about the same age and we share almost exactly the same sense of humour etc. It's easier to casually meet up rather than having this last minute I'm in London! pressure sprung on me at the last minute.
Again I did not sprung shit up the last minute! And I do not live in London, I cannot wait for you to be comfortable! I am there during those four days, if you wanna meet up it has to happen then! You do not sit there and wait stars to allign, you make time! That is if you want to meet up, but you clearly did not.
Also you find me to confrontational, you rather have someone that is more like you. Again that is fine, but more proof that we are not friends, just aquintances! I for example cannot stand passive aggressive people, because they waste my time! Again we are all different, but us two are clearly not friends!
gamingeek said:
Why is this a separate blog post BTW?
Because the other blog is bloated
Yeah man, why you got to diss my culture like that. Just bend over and thou shall receive greatness.
Honest and upfront is my prefered method, sure you might hurt their feeling a bit, but in the long run it is much more polite. Ignoring someone for example is much more cruel!
The dutch never ruled the world only K1 and ice skating
Hmmm, I see what you did there