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Rest in Peace, Dad.
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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 02:52:53
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  My father passed away yesterday.  He dealt with congestive heart failure for nearly a decade and a half.  Throughout his life, he’s had diabetes, two heart attacks, a stroke, and skin cancer.  He’s battled them all, bravely.  He rarely ever complained, just kept moving on.  It was never in his nature to give in and quit.

  I loved my dad, though we were never really that close.  We were polar opposites in many ways, but I always admired his humbleness. He never felt the need to be the center of attention, rarely ever raising his voice to speak.  He was usually the last one to speak, speaking only when spoken to most times. It was hard to get an opinion out of him at times.  As frustrating as it was to communicate with him at times, I certainly admired his restraint.  It was so rare to hear him voice an opinion that when he did speak, you listened.

  Last week, my father was in the hospital, the fluid has been building in his lungs for nearly a year.  He’s been in and out of hospitals getting the fluids out of his system, only to see it return.  His heart didn’t beat as strong as ours and could not move blood through his system like it needed to be.  His kidneys would stop working because of the lack of blood flow.  It was an endless cycle.  Last week, my father said that he wanted to go home.  He spoke, we listened.

  Through Hospice care, we got him home in a bed, with his own nurses to visit every day. Our goal was to just ease him through his last days, medicate him so he felt no pain.  Two days ago, he went into a light coma.  He couldn’t respond, but he could hear us.  Yesterday, he passed, as peacefully as can be.  I hate to say this, but it’s relieving to know that even though he’s gone, there’s no more suffering.  Rest in peace, dad.

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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 02:56:54
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Time for the healing now man. You've been through a lot and you've earned the rest and so has he.

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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 03:07:16
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It's good that he was able to die at home. R.I.P.

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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 03:16:52
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Rest in peace.

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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 03:40:16
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May he rest in peace.

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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 03:52:13
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So sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace. Your father raised a good son and it sounds as if you were good to him in return. Like Robio said, now his suffering is at an end, so let your healing begin.

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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 04:44:21
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My condolences Travo.

R.I.P.

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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 05:25:51
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My deepest condolences. You did the right thing letting him have hiswish of being at home. You need anything we are here.

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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 08:45:24
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Sorry Travo, I know how it is going through this kind of stuff.

Best wishes man.

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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 12:48:53
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Sounds miserable. My best wishes are with you and I really, really mean that. I'm tearing up right now. It's something we will all have to go through some day.

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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 13:05:30
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Really sad for your loss Travo.  At least he had a peaceful and dignified ending and hopefully mostly a good life leading up to that (despite the deeply shaken health).  You did very good by him, and your own character and life reflect on him very favourably.

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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 14:09:36
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Sorry for your loss brother

Rest In Peace

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Fri, 08 Mar 2013 18:16:58
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Your dad sounds like a warrior, fighting many battles. May he finally rest in peace!

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Sat, 09 Mar 2013 01:29:51
Thanks to all of you guys for the kind words.  In a way, writing this was very comforting for me.
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Sat, 09 Mar 2013 04:51:43
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Sorry I was late to letting you know I am thinking of you Travo.

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